Sixteen weeks seems like the right time to introduce all of you to our amazing carrier. A lot of you have already had the pleasure of meeting her but for those of you who haven't, let me tell you a little bit about this wonderful woman.
Laura is a mother of two girls married to her husband, Rob, of almost ten years. Before joining our journey she and I were not close friends but have been fortunate enough that our families have become family. She's never been a carrier for anyone before but she saw our need and selflessly offered to help us and her husband has shown unwavering support for her decision. Her two girls seem to understand what's going on, as much as a four- and eight-year-old can, and have been very loving to both Eric and I, as well as the belly!
Prior to finding our carrier, I always thought I would feel more conflicted if she was someone I saw frequently, that I would maybe feel jealous or bitter. I thought I would be more comfortable with someone I didn't have to see grow and bond with our children. Now that I'm in a situation where my carrier is someone I talk to daily and see several times a month, I wouldn't want it any other way. It certainly has bittersweet moments but it's definitely more sweet than bitter and I would probably feel a lot more anxiety about the situation if I was completely separated from the woman carrying our babies.
Eric and I hope to continuing build our friendships with our carrier and her family. Our intention is to have them as much a part of the twins (twins!!) lives as they are comfortable with. I can't imagine going through all of this with someone and then never seeing them again, or having them never see the babies again. Luckily, I don't think that is what any of us wants.
We recently went camping with Laura and Rob and their girls along with my sister and brother-in-law. If anything will tell you whether or not you get along with someone, living in a camper for a long weekend will! Fortunately the weekend was filled with good times, and lots of belly rubs!
Thank you all, as always, for your continued love and support throughout this experience. I'm looking forward to sharing many more stories with you all!
Prior to finding our carrier, I always thought I would feel more conflicted if she was someone I saw frequently, that I would maybe feel jealous or bitter. I thought I would be more comfortable with someone I didn't have to see grow and bond with our children. Now that I'm in a situation where my carrier is someone I talk to daily and see several times a month, I wouldn't want it any other way. It certainly has bittersweet moments but it's definitely more sweet than bitter and I would probably feel a lot more anxiety about the situation if I was completely separated from the woman carrying our babies.
Eric and I hope to continuing build our friendships with our carrier and her family. Our intention is to have them as much a part of the twins (twins!!) lives as they are comfortable with. I can't imagine going through all of this with someone and then never seeing them again, or having them never see the babies again. Luckily, I don't think that is what any of us wants.
We recently went camping with Laura and Rob and their girls along with my sister and brother-in-law. If anything will tell you whether or not you get along with someone, living in a camper for a long weekend will! Fortunately the weekend was filled with good times, and lots of belly rubs!
Thank you all, as always, for your continued love and support throughout this experience. I'm looking forward to sharing many more stories with you all!
