FAQs

Now that the news of our pregnancy and the identity of our carrier are out in the open, I thought this would be a good opportunity to answer some of the most asked questions Eric and I have gotten. I'll be addressing what seem to be the five most popular questions but feel free to continue asking more as they come to you! Lots of people have asked these same questions and believe me, none of them are silly questions! A couple of them are questions we had ourselves! Anyway, here goes!

Did you know it was going to be twins? 

The short answer is, yes. After a lot of discussion and education Eric and I, along with Laura and her family, decided to transfer two embryos. There was a chance that only one, or neither for that matter, would take. However, a healthy uterus and strong embryos gave us twins! So we realized the possibility of twins was high but we had no way of knowing for certain we would have twins. But it wasn't a total shock at all! 

Will the twins be identical?

Nope! Two seperately embryos were implanted so they will definitely be fraternal! This eases my mind, I was worried about the chance of mixing them up! 

Is your carrier a close friend?

Prior to us beginning this process, Laura and I were friendly coworkers, not much more than that. Throughout this process we have developed a genuine and strong friendship. We are in contact daily, either by phone or text, and I hope as well as expect for our friendship to continue and thrive. My husband and I really enjoy spending time with Laura and Rob and get together as much as we can! It doesn't hurt that they love the same NFL team as Eric! 

Are you finding out the genders?

Absolutely! We had an ultrasound last week where each baby was evaluated fully and both of the babies were fully cooperative. We are having a gender reveal party in a couple weeks so we still won't know until then, the suspense is nearly killing me! 

Are you excited?

Yes. And terrified. But mostly excited!! I think we will benefit from having twins as our first children, we don't know any different! The lack of sleep is daunting to me and all the equipment you need is overwhelming. Our sweet little home seems to be getting smaller as the due date creeps closer! But I'm lucky enough to have a loving husband and an extremely supportive family that we can lean on when we need to. 

Hope this answered some questions for everybody. Like I said, let us know if any other questions come to you, we're happy to do the best we can to answer them. Thanks, as always, for your support!  

Ours Buns, Her Oven

Sixteen weeks! We are sixteen weeks into our pregnancy! Four months! According to Google, that means the twins are the size of avocados now! Sometimes I really can't believe this is actually happening.

Sixteen weeks seems like the right time to introduce all of you to our amazing carrier. A lot of you have already had the pleasure of meeting her but for those of you who haven't, let me tell you a little bit about this wonderful woman. 

Laura is a mother of two girls married to her husband, Rob, of almost ten years. Before joining our journey she and I were not close friends but have been fortunate enough that our families have become family. She's never been a carrier for anyone before but she saw our need and selflessly offered to help us and her husband has shown unwavering support for her decision. Her two girls seem to understand what's going on, as much as a four- and eight-year-old can, and have been very loving to both Eric and I, as well as the belly!
Prior to finding our carrier, I always thought I would feel more conflicted if she was someone I saw frequently, that I would maybe feel jealous or bitter. I thought I would be more comfortable with someone I didn't have to see grow and bond with our children. Now that I'm in a situation where my carrier is someone I talk to daily and see several times a month, I wouldn't want it any other way. It certainly has bittersweet moments but it's definitely more sweet than bitter and I would probably feel a lot more anxiety about the situation if I was completely separated from the woman carrying our babies.
Eric and I hope to continuing build our friendships with our carrier and her family. Our intention is to have them as much a part of the twins (twins!!) lives as they are comfortable with. I can't imagine going through all of this with someone and then never seeing them again, or having them never see the babies again. Luckily, I don't think that is what any of us wants.
We recently went camping with Laura and Rob and their girls along with my sister and brother-in-law. If anything will tell you whether or not you get along with someone, living in a camper for a long weekend will! Fortunately the weekend was filled with good times, and lots of belly rubs!
Thank you all, as always, for your continued love and support throughout this experience. I'm looking forward to sharing many more stories with you all!